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Vayu · 20 months and 1 week · Vol. 07Excerpt

Vayu started daycare this week, is throwing major tantrums over small things, and hums Twinkle Twinkle back in a tune you can recognize.

This week, take Vayu to a playground with a low bar he can hang from on his own, or set up a doorway pull-up bar you've tested with your weight first. Stand within arm's reach and don't lift him unless he asks with a grip-point. When he drops, say 'you got down' in a normal voice and wait for him to try again.

You want to protect the joy Vayu gets after climbing, that post-effort glow.

Research on early motivation finds children stay engaged when they have some self-determination and challenges matched to what they can actually do. A low bar he can reach and drop from himself keeps the choice, and the pride, on his side of the exchange.

Harvard Center on the Developing Child

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